Are you losing some of your health when you are trying to say good word to people?!
If you have a good word, say it to your friends , you might release the pressure , and relieve them from the pain that they have.
But if you have a bad word, don’t say it, just keep it to yourself. It is enough for what they have.
I am going to say briefly, if you have nice words to comfort them why not, just say it and speak to them carefully . But if you don’t have it, so all things that you have to do, is just to keep quiet. And Listen to them, they might find you a good person who stand with them in hard times.
Be the water to turn down the fire, don’t be the gasoline to turn up the fire. Be the bandage for their injuries, don’t be the salt that it pours on their injuries to increase the severe of pain. Finally, Don’t be the knife to open the wound more than it is!